10 Reasons I Won’t be Bringing a Gift to the Party

10 Reasons Why I Won’t Be Bringing a Gift to Your Child’s Birthday

So, maybe this was an accident at first. I forgot to bring the gift that I had purchased for a friend’s party. Then I had someone suggest can foods to donate in leu of gifts. I can do that! Then my son’s birthday further cemented my opinion on the matter. He did not need more things. Truly. Our house is basically become a maze of kid s$!4. I mean, it is a problem. I am not saying that I won’t still give gifts at times, but just not to every child’s party. These are the reasons I am skipping the gift and coming anyway.

 

    1. Kids already have too much.

      Circumnavigating toddler obstacles disguised as toys might as well involve a compass, a map and a boatload of grit and determination. Toes have been stubbed along the way. I do not want to further inundate other’ homes with clutter and the dollar store gift that I can afford.

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  1. I can’t afford anything your child really wants.

    Do you really want another toy truck? I can see 10 from my peripheral, and that’s just in the dining room. How about another doll? They are already starting to creep you out. Really, why do they stare like that?

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  1. There are too many parties. 

    How many birthday parties can someone be invited to in one season. We have managed 8 for April and May. I am pretty sure we are going in some birthday party hall-of-hell, I mean fame, somewhere. I like you and your kid and the other 30 parents and children from our mom’s group. I am so blessed to have community, but my wallet does not somehow magically grow every time I receive a birthday invitation.

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  1. I am so busy. 

    I am not trying to be selfish here, but it is the weekend. Finally, I have an extra set of hands (the husband) and I need to finally try to tackle the mess that some call a house. I am losing my sanity just trying to keep up and one more thing to my list might turn me into a raving lunatic. Face it, I might not even need one more thing at this point.

 

 

 

      1. Shopping is not my jam.

        I know some woman thrive from perusing merchandise with the hopes to one day buy some. Or, the may even be wild and crazy, purchase-on-the-spot people. I am none of these. I am a please gauge my eyes out if it means I don’t have to go to the store.

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      1. I forgot to Amazon Prime it. 

        Even one day shipping does not excuse the last-minute nature of my gift-giving. 30 minutes before it is time to leave is not a great time to lose my ever-loving mind because I forgot that detail. My family staying together is largely dependent on me holding it together. When I unravel, it affects much more than anticipated. Another reason to skip that gift.

     

    1. The wrapping and card cost more than the gift. 

      I am not even trying to win some wrapping contest or show off how great a friend I am. I truly couldn’t find a bag, paper and a card for under $15. At this point, the only thing left for the gift is air and that may be a disappointing unwrapping experience.

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    1. Starving children in Africa and such. 

      Okay, maybe this is added for dramatic effect, but I really think donating toys is a better use of our time. I try to hoard up unwrapped toys to give for Christmas. Oh yeah, if you give my son a toy, that is where it going. Our mounds filleth over. I strongly believe that giving back to those in need is one of our callings as Christians. I know your toddlermight need the new Elmo and your teen needs that new X Box, but they aren’t exactly slumming it in the backseat of your brand new BMW. *insert jealous side-eye*

    Donate toys here!

     

    1. I don’t want to.

      Yeah. It’s true. I don’t really want to. I mean, my intentions were noble to begin with, but then I found out it is easier this way. I mean, why would I revert to my old ways after all this gloriousness.

     

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    1. I want to go.

      I used to find excuses not to go to parties because I felt so guilty about not having a gift. I used to worry, what would others think. Then I stopped. I asked for no gifts at my son’s birthday because that wasn’t what it was about. It was about friends. My son loves these parties and I do too. I love talking to my mom friends and creating memories.

     

    I feel no guilt (well, almost none) for skipping your child’s extra gift on the pile that is cascading over. And I hope that you can overlook the lack of tradition and invite us anyway because we would love to be a part of your kid’s special day.

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Samantha Lee
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Haha, “I don’t want to.” At least your honest! ;p

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Jenn JG
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Although I would never show up without a gift this post did make me laugh. Especially the pictures!! As far as gift wrap & cards…. Dollar Store Baby (and oh course I re-use all the gifts bags given to us).

Lisa
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I love this article. Although I don’t have kids, I totally agree. Even when I was a kid I hated picking out gifts or even getting them at birthdays. It should be about the experience and memories, not about gift giving. Like you said, nobody needs another doll or another truck.

Kristen | Kandy Apple Mama
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YES. I love this! We have asked family to only gift “experiences” instead of gifts to our children now. They’d much rather go out with you and play somewhere than get another truck or doll – you’re totally right! I think we’ll tell her friends that we don’t need gifts at her next birthday party too 🙂

Sirri
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I LOVE THIS! I completely agree! I haaaate when people bring my son toys! It’s about memories, not junk! And it really is so expensive! When we have multiple birthday parties a month is ridiculous!
Great post, Mama!

Cheryl
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I love this post! You’ve said everything I’ve thought about going to a child’s birthday party.

Jayme
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This is so funny! I love the honesty! 😂

Bre Paulson
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I wish this was the norm, kids these days do NOT need anything! Attending the party should be more than enough. I always tell people not to bring gifts to my daughter’s birthday parties and people think I’m the weird one lol

katie | from north to south
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I feel ya mama – we always ask for no gifts, we don’t need anymore crap.

Michelle C
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OMG…love it!! I dread birthday parties. I don’t have the patience to hang out for hours…but I feel guilty for not going.

Maria
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Oh Lord what a good post! I totally relate. This is true..birthday parties are materialistic grabbers. It’s so unnecessary to do the gifts thing especially when you don’t even know the parents or the child. That’s just me.
xo, Maria
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nicole
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Haha I love the honesty

Liz
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I don’t know if I could turn up to a party empty handed, but I love the idea of donating toys or money instead!

Nikki
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I love the honesty of this post. There are some of the reasons here that are true to me, kudos to this post 💜

Ryan
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I hope you don’t take a piece of cake then 🙂

Addison Messer
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We have been invited to 2 birthday parties since I wrote this post two days ago. Either my friends really do like me, or they don’t read my blog.

Jasmine Hewitt
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You have some great points. I have never went to a birthday party without bringing some kind of gift, even if it’s just a gift card. Otherwise I just wouldn’t go.

Tracy
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I love this post! Such good reasons not to bring a gift. Besides there party should be about celebrating with friends and not revolving around gifts!

Priscilla Barton
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Love this – we try to go cheap because i feel like it’s a formality. I guess i might do a gift card to somewhere useful if i feel like there is an expectation of a present but i totally feel you. I secretly purge our toy bin when the kids are sleeping all the time…

Luci
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I’m not a mother but am I an aunt, I haven’t been buying them presents for the last couple of years because they either end up destroyed or get thrown away from my sister so I baked them their gift so I know they won’t go to waste.

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